For a while I struggled to redefine my passion post-motherhood. Not that I was doing anything specific after work to truly engage all aspects of my wellness, but my spirit was not fulfilled. I remember saying, “having a child does not make me whole”. I remember saying that specifically because I have always felt whole. But let me tell you, having Aiden brought about an entirely new definition and meaning to my life.
Read MoreWell, two weekends ago I was able to tune into the reason why. I notice that when I am around people from Temple, I am the recipient of repetitive questioning about ‘how Aiden’s doing,’ ‘how’s Aiden’s dad’ and ‘how are we coparenting.’ These questions have served as a trigger for me, especially at these events.
Read MoreI can’t begin to tell you how many times I’ve had conversations with married friends (with kids) and friends in relationships with kids, who try to “make me feel better” around this time of year and fail without even knowing. I try not to say anything. I definitely try to avoid conversations about Valentine’s Day altogether, but the therapist in me knows that avoiding conversations like these does not help how you feel at all. Truth be told, it might not be easy for you and THAT IS OKAY.
Read MoreAnd no I’m not being sensitive, but it gets to be extremely annoying when you’re judged for the decisions you make to create a more seamless lifestyle. It happens pretty often, but I know I’m not the only one. Often I try to ignore the comments and remain unbothered—you know, these comments: “you know there are more moms out here dealing with the same thing,” “there are moms who have it worse,” “there are single moms who did this before you.”
Read MoreI actually haven’t been feeling that ‘well’. I’m not sick or ill, but as far as feeling ‘well’–I’m not there. Physically, I actually feel like crap and am in need of a major cleanse. There’s more going on here, though.
Read MoreBesides it being well-overdue, it was everything Aiden and Mommy needed. The second we landed in Jamaica, whatever sinus pressure we were feeling was GONE! I mean, let’s face it, we were thrilled to escape the bitter cold. This was not Aiden’s first time out of the country or his first time to Jamaica, rather our first time traveling alone (flying that is)–without family. I was excited, whilst my mother was a nervous wreck about EVERYTHING.
Read MoreI thoroughly enjoy reading y’all. I love to hold a book. I love to smell books (yes, I’m a nerd like that). However, I started listening to an audiobook, so I could multitask and do other tasks around the house and I just feel disconnected. It was my way of still enjoying books, but I was feeling unfulfilled.
Read MoreMotherhood smacked me in the face, threw that idea on the floor and stomped it out. At the time, I was still having all the baby blues and possible undiagnosed postpartum depression feels going on and could not find the motivation. I even had my friend, who is a trainer, trying to motivate me to go. It wasn’t happening.
Read MoreAs always, any self-care practice has to be intentional. You have to set out to do it. Today, Aiden decided to invade my allotted time by awakening earlier than I anticipated. My 5:00 o’clock hour was invaded with 15 minutes to spare. Actually, I was hoping I had time to myself until at least 7:30 AM, but hey, it is what it is.
Read MoreTherapists need therapists. It’s a necessity. We’re constantly fielding everyone else’s daily issues, while struggling to focus on our own.
Read MoreThese are the moments we need to cherish and take advantage of. Our plan is to do an outing like this at least once every 2 months. Everyone’s busy, but we have to make time for family.
Read MoreOkay, so my intention was to do my Self Care Sunday routine on Sunday. I set a reminder on my Google Home and even set out my SCS materials, so I would be successful in making sure I went through my process. Welp, sleep took over and it didn’t happen.
Read MoreAs moms, we can be a little too hard on ourselves. I have my moments and I’m sure other moms do too; however, I can’t help but think that I could be doing more.
Read MoreWhat happened to Chuck E. Cheese? What about the parties at the McDonald’s playplace? Not these parties where we’re spending thousands of dollars for something even we will barely remember.
Read MoreIt’s time for me to tell you all what’s been going on. A LOT has changed since my last blog post, which led to me having to take a long and much needed hiatus.
Read MoreAnd that something was doing absolutely nothing. It wasn’t intentional this time, so I don’t know if it was actually self-care. What I can say is that I laid on my couch and did nothing for HOURS on Sunday.
Read MoreI’ve talked briefly about a self care routine previously and how I was going to get back to it. Well, I’m not quite there yet. However, I think it’s very important to not limit my self care to only Sundays. I decided I’m going to set self care goals that I’ll plan to meet throughout the week.
Read MoreToday is the day to highlight FATHERS! This day is not your day mom. We celebrated already mommies! It’s not for single moms, it’s not to diminish the value of fathers because feminists and other like-minded individuals say otherwise, also not because moms do so much that fathers don’t even need to be acknowledged. I hated seeing the posts from women leading up to this day stating these things. It made my skin cringe.
Read MoreThere’s nothing worse than feeling helpless in a situation. Daily, Aiden goes in and closes his bedroom door when we get home. That’s just his new thing–closing doors. Today was a little different though
Read More’m proud to say that week 2 of meal prepping has been successful thus far. Granted, I could have started a little earlier in the day on Sunday (much earlier, actually), but it got done nonetheless.
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