I'm tired of being judged as a Millennial Mom

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And no I’m not being sensitive, but it gets to be extremely annoying when you’re judged for the decisions you make to create a more seamless lifestyle. It happens pretty often, but I know I’m not the only one. Often I try to ignore the comments and remain unbothered—you know, these comments: “you know there are more moms out here dealing with the same thing,” “there are moms who have it worse,” “there are single moms who did this before you.”

Guess what prompted the most recent, “there were plenty of single moms who were able to manage before you”: Me stating that I was going to have someone come and clean my apartment.

 What is the difference from me using ‘ShopRite from Home’ and paying someone to shop for my groceries (saving me a wonderful amount of time and frustration being in the crowded store–and it’s only $5-$10 by the way) versus me occasionally having someone to come clean and pull my living space back together?!

As you have read in my Wellness Wednesday Check in post, I have been struggling getting every aspect of life clean. It is TIME CONSUMING. It is not about being unable to get my house clean, but with everything I am trying to accomplish and juggle with everything else (including the social life that is quickly increasing) I just want my house to be cleaned so I can maintain it.
There are still remnants of a “recent” move in my apartment. I have boxes lingering, organizing to be done and with that it becomes overwhelming. I hate clutter, so I think that when I see it—I shut down. I hate bumping into things and sometimes it feels like there is not a place for some items. My IKEA shopping list is growing, by the way.

 

Back to my point, though. Older generations have a tendency to “guilt” you into not doing what you feel is best for you in that moment. If I am making the decision to pay someone to complete my cleaning, so I can complete whatever the hell I need to other than spending HOURS cleaning, then SO BE IT. SO WHAT!? Things like this really have the ability to get under my skin and I’m sure I’m not the only one. But if you’re not going to come clean my home or help me do it then why say something? And it’s not just about the ‘cleaning’ comments, it’s about everything. Sometimes people feel they should have an opinion on the matter, but only have “suggestions” or “advice” that doesn’t actually lend an additional hand.

Here are a few tips for dealing with Millennial Mom Judgment:

  • Do whatever it is that you feel will be the best use of your time

  • Don’t feel guilty, times are different than they were before

  • No one else is walking in YOUR shoes

  • No one else truly knows how YOU are feeling

  • It’s about YOU and what you’re comfortable with

  • Don’t let it irritate or upset you, say thanks for your opinion (or not) and move on

  • Keep smiling because only YOU control your energy

How do you deal with judgment from others? Especially other parents?

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